Wednesday, October 2, 2019

Jayinee and Patrick's pre-Wedding ceremonies

On Wed Sep 25, 2019 our family and friends gathered at our home to arrange Tauttwo (তত্ত্ব) These are the gifts from the bride’s parents to the bride, groom and groom’s family. Traditionally these are arranged on large trays and sent to the groom’s house in the morning of the wedding day. In addition to various clothes this often includes various kind of food including Bengali sweets, fish, and fruits.

Tauttwo-1
Tauttwo-2

Tauttwo-3


On Fri Sep 27, 2019 evening my brother Sambit and my sister-in-law Paramita threw the Aiburo-bhaat (আইবুড়ো ভাত) for Jayinee. This is like bridal shower but has additional significance being the last meal taken by the bride made by her parents before the wedding. Babul-Paramita also invited Patrick and his family to do the same for Patrick. It is amazing how Patrick’s father Shane, mother Lori and brother Michael embraced the Bengali wedding rituals and enthusiastically took part in all of them. There was a sumptuous multi-course dinner served for the occasion.

With her parents. Now you know where did she get her good looks.
Bride with her parents.

Jayinee with her mother Jaya. Now you know where she got her good looks.

With my sister Damayanti and her daughter Sharanya

With my brother Sambit




Sun Sep 28, 2019 morning we arranged ‘Gaye-holud’ (গায়ে হলুদ) for both Jayinee and Patrick. Gaye-holud is a Bengali wedding ritual typically happens in the morning of the wedding day. It takes place independently both at the bride’s and groom’s places. The women folks of each family take turn to put turmeric paste on the bride and groom’s faces to cleansing skin as well to purify mind and spirit. It was held at our home in Morgan Hill, California for both Jayinee and Patrick. There were about 100 invitees who were served Bengali dishes for lunch.


For the Gaye Holud a gate was setup in the style of Bengali Wedding pandal with some hand-made motifs. Ideation by Jaya, design by Paramita, Implementation by Sambit, and erected by Rik and others.

The wooden platforms (পিঁড়ি) with intricate paintings that the bride and groom sit on. We'll see them again during the Bengali wedding ceremony
Jaya blesses the bride





 

Patrick is blessed by his mother Lori





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